ABOUT JAMES

Trying to now find my place in the world, find out who I was, rediscover myself.

I’ve built
myself up

In November 2012, I sat in my freezing cold bedroom about to take my own life, in a small 3 bedroom terraced house.

I couldn’t really afford the house after having taken at huge pay cut to leave the Royal Marines to be home with my family.

Almost immediately after leaving the military, I knew I was struggling mentally and emotionally. Trying to now find my place in the world, find out who I was, rediscover myself, I struggled to connect with my wife as a result of struggling so much. I had just closed down completely. I let down my wife and my children, and pushed them away.

This was not the plan when I gave up my dream job in the military.

Fast forward 18 months, I was facing divorce because of my actions, I had drink issues, a crippling financial situation, no vision, no future, I was so far gone, I was in the position where it was time to end it all, and end the suffering, that’s how I found myself sitting on the edge of the bed on a cold November evening in 2012 ready to end it all.

11 years on, I’m pleased to say I never went through with my planned exit from life, my kids deserved more than that, so do I.

Over the 11 years I’ve built myself up and lead myself to living a life I’m proud off, a life in which I live on my terms. I rebuilt my relationship with my children, found friendship with my former wife, I remarried my soul mate who helped me heal and rebuild, and we created two beautiful girls.

I’ve built 3 successful businesses that has lead me to The Man Coach.

Where I help men lead themselves again to help lead those around them. Family, work life balance, business. ‘THEM’ is all of the important aspects in life we must learn to manage and control.

We build men up through our programmes, and our movement. challenging what is possible, helping men face the realities of where they are, and then creating structure, routines and systems to rebuild, to become the man they need and want to be.

I’m a devoted husband and father, I love BJJ & Golf, I’ve run multiple marathons and 50 milers, and even run 3 x 100 mile races.

Life is about knowing what you want, and creating a path to achieve that, without being ambushed by life.

Life is hard, but we must be harder to ‘LEAD YOU, TO LEAD THEM’

Life is about knowing what you want